Thursday, April 17, 2014

bullies beware

From The Blaze:

“Fifth grade students at Zeman Elementary School in Lincoln, Neb., were recently sent home with a “flyer” outlining how they should handle bullies. The instructions were apparently deemed so ridiculous by parents that the school district quickly issued an apology and the “inaccurate information” was pulled.
That was after the nine “rules” for dealing with bullies went viral, of course.
Here are some of the more questionable ones:
• Rule #3 Do not be afraid.
• Rule #4: Do not verbally defend yourself.
• Rule #7: Do not tell on bullies.
• Rule #8: Don’t be a sore loser
• Rule #9: Learn to laugh at yourself and not get “hooked” by put-downs.
After seeing parents’ reaction to the flyer, Lincoln Public Schools issued an apology on its Facebook page.
As noted in the embedded Facebook post, the school linked to another worksheet on bullying, which includes tips like “contact a school staff member” and “do not minimize or make excuses for bullying behaviors.”
Many Facebook users were still not completely satisfied after the apology.
“That list of 9 rules for dealing with bullies was hands down the worst advice any person could give to another,” one user wrote. “That it was an ‘educator’ giving it to elementary age children is just beyond the pale. ‘Don’t tell on bullies… would we keep our friends if we tattled on them?’ – Seriously?!”
“Sorry. This is not a learning opportunity. This is a show of complete incompetence. 1970 called, they want their flier back,” another commented.
Others wanted an explanation as to why the “ludicrous” flyer even made it home in the first place.”

I can’t say I've ever been a victim of bullying. Then again, it all depends on your definition of bullying. I tend to think I’m pretty oversensitive and I allow my feelings to be hurt quite easily even though I do my best to keep those feelings hidden.
I know that it has been good for me to be ridiculed and picked on to the extent that I've been. I have had to learn how to stick up for myself, I usually use whit as a way to play off of what any “bullies” might say. But a little bit of skepticism from others is good. I can’t say I love criticism but it does put my toes to the fire and causes me to decide if I really do believe what I say I do or if it’s something that really does need changed.
I think that there’s something much bigger happening here. You see, according to people like these Lincoln school officials, we are to just lay down and take it from anyone who wants to give us a hard time. I’m not just talking about the boy at school with pimples on his face, cruel words and big muscles, although he could be used as the poster child for some of our bullies. Bullies like the IRS who wants to punish those with certain political affiliations, or bullies like the NSA that desires to know exactly what each of us are doing at all times, then there are bullies like the EPA shouting about saving turtles and bugs and sacred shrimp – is that really what they’re concerned about?
In regards to bullies – they are here and I’m afraid they are here to stay. I don’t have children yet but when I do, I plan to ingrain in them some witty come-back abilities, humility so they hear what they need to and a fist that isn’t afraid to dish out big lips and black eyes. Nah, violence isn’t always the answer but standing up for yourself and what you know is right sure is!

- Trinity Lewis

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